To women who are in relationships or are starting one
Trust the man. He knows better than you what he is really like, so if he doesn’t call, doesn’t write, doesn’t show support or interest, avoids some topics or ignores your needs, then do not try to convince yourself and the world that it’s going to be different. He is the way he is, and he won’t change.
Mentally mute what he says and instead, take a look at his actions – do his beautiful words of appreciation and praise go hand in hand with the things he does for you?
Don’t give yourself away to him just because you fancy him or he fits your criteria. He needs to deserve your attention, photographs, a meeting or your gestures of appreciation. You are the value in itself and he should feel honoured to keep you company.
See who you become while being near him and whether you like yourself this way. Are you authentic, genuine, sensitive and womanly? To what degree does his presence stimulate your growth? What value does he bring to your life?
And only then should you decide if he really is the man worth dedicating your precious time and attention to. It may turn out that you would be better off reading an good book.